My girlfriend recently began complaining that our sex life is boring and unsatisfying. She claims that she doesn’t have orgasms as often as she used to, and when she does, they just don’t feel powerful.
I don’t consider myself a Casanovian lover. I like sex, but I don’t really like playing the foreplay games. I guess I’m a little lazy, you know what I mean, I look forward to two things: intercourse and then sleep.
Heck sometimes I don’t even take my socks off. My girlfriend Maria thinks it’s unsexy, but I think it’s convenient. I mean, why should I take my socks off if I have to put them back on in five minutes?
She’s overreacting; personally I think that one orgasm every two weeks is pretty good for a woman. Remember, not too many women can have orgasms, it’s just unusual.
But Maria claims she used to have an orgasm every time she had sex with her ex-boyfriend. As you can imagine, I did not appreciate that comment, and now I feel like I’m being compared to her ex every time we have sex… thankfully it’s not often because I would not be able to handle the pressure.
Help Player, I can no longer take the thought of being sexually outperformed by my girlfriend’s ex. I want to be her best lover and give her all the orgasms she wants. How do I do it?
Tony two socks
how many does she want?
Tony’s big mistake, like most men, is assuming that what satisfies him will also satisfy his woman. In this case, simply having sex is enough to put a smile on Tony’s face.
But women don’t want to experience regular orgasms, they want explosive orgasms, and mechanical sex is not going to cut it. Women call it Movie Sex ; I call it Mind Sex , and if you follow The Player’s rules, you will no longer be asking if she had an orgasm, but rather how many she had.
By making love to a woman’s mind before making love to her body, you will be putting her in a suspended state of mind that will heighten her senses that, in turn, will show her the way to multiple orgasms.
Here’s how to make love to her mind…
please her mind, the rest is easy
How powerful can mind sex be? One time I lay down on my side next to my woman, and for about thirty minutes, all I did was stare at her eyes and mouth. Once in a while, I would open my lips and close them again. Before long, her lips were synchronized with mine. When I would open my lips she would open hers, and when I closed them, she’d seal hers as well.
At one point, my tongue started to peak out at her tongue, and even though we were only inches apart from each other, we did not physically kiss. But the chemistry between us was so strong that we actually felt the electricity, and our minds were fooled into believing that we truly were kissing. And before I knew it, my sexual friend started to convulse and shiver as she experienced an orgasm with the touch of my hand.
If you can lead a woman to orgasm with just a touch of your hand, imagine what you can do when you actually make love. Once you reach this state of mind, a person’s emotional and physical senses become so sensitive that actual physical contact will lead to shivering, powerful and explosive, faint-effective orgasms, without much effort.
prep her brain
The most important factor that influences a woman’s orgasm is her state of mind. When a woman feels stressed, preoccupied, worried, depressed, unsexy, and has low self-esteem, she usually takes a lot longer to climax.
On the other hand, if a woman has absolutely no worries or concerns racing through her mind, and she’s sexually stimulated by your presence, reaching orgasm will be as easy as giving candy to a child.
Here are some ongoing preparatory tips to help your woman get into the right frame of mind:
Show you’re trustworthy
A woman wants to know that she can trust her man. The last thing she wants is to wake up in the morning with a snake in her bed. This is achieved by proper communication and avoiding lies.
Calm her fears
A woman is afraid that she’s only being used for her body. Take the time and special care to emphasize that you truly enjoy her company. Be patient. By not pushing yourself onto her too much, you’ll be calming her fear that all you want is her body.
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Make her feel comfortable
She should feel comfortable both around you and with her body. This can be achieved through communication of what both individuals want, and by exploring one another’s body. Once she feels comfortable with her own body, she won’t feel guilty about the pleasures that derive from it.
Be the center of her world
Show her that above all, you’re her friend. Not just any friend, but her best friend. Let her know that you’ll always be around to protect her.
Women do not usually get turned down, and cannot deal with the fact that some men can actually resist their sexual advances. Some women find this resistance very erotic and appealing. The next time you’re around her, keep your pants on and let her rip them off of you . The idea is for her to think about sex every time she thinks about you.
The power of music
Never underestimate the power of music — especially when it’s loud and all around you. The next time you’re alone with your sweetheart, pop in Chicane’s Behind The Sun , and soon you’ll be popping all over the house.
The position that women love most…
Make her feel sexy
Don’t overdo it, but the best time is when she’s feeling down or when she has a new piece of clothing on. Compliment the little things, and whatever you do, don’t say, “That dress makes you look sexy.” Instead say, “You really make that dress look hot.”
Give her a helping hand
No, I’m not talking about mutual masturbation. I’m referring to helping her with work, and any other little chores that might be stressing her out.
The kiss is key
Just like you need a key to start your car, a passionate kiss is the secret to igniting her body. Keep it natural, passionate, simple, and sexy because once you realize that everything starts with a kiss, you’ll never stop kissing her.
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Being a good kisser will definitely help your woman’s imagination run wild, but it is her state of mind that will rule over her orgasms. Once a man realizes this, he’ll never have to worry about satisfying his woman again. His presence alone, her happiness, and her state of mind will have her climaxing like a leaky faucet.
However, even though some women are perfectly happy, they still might find it hard to reach multiple orgasms. If this is the case, I recommend The Player’s Classic Woman On Top Leg Flow (WOLF) position.
With the WOLF, you can’t go wrong. I can personally note that by using this position, all of the women I’ve made love to have had multiple orgasms. In fact, this is the position where I most often hear, “Oh my G-d! Oh my G-d! Oh my G-d! Oh my G-d, I can see colors all around me! Oh my G-d, I feel like I’m having a heart attack!”
How do you perform the WOLF? It’s actually quite simple. First, much like the rather primitive woman astride position (for the lazy man), lie down on your back and have her sit on top of your iron rod. Then simply let her control the motion.
Once you notice that she hit a certain rhythm, you can bet that she found her sweet spot. This is the time to be spontaneous and surprise her by lifting the center of your body up — much like a wolf howling in the night — with your legs.
This will allow for your penis to have greater penetration, as well as increase the chance of tickling her g-spot. But once again, variety is key. Don’t stay stiff or frozen in time. Once in a while, synchronize your rhythm with hers by gently lowering and raising yourself.
Every woman has the potential to achieve multiple orgasms, she just needs the right man to bring it out of her. The most important lesson here is that the mind controls the body. If you want to please your woman sexually like no other man has before, you’re going to have to take her to a whole new level by making love with her mind first. The only way to achieve this is by treating your woman the way she wants to be treated… like a blossoming rose.
If you want more great sex tips and how-to videos that will get her addicted to your sex appeal, check out AskMen.com’s Handbook To Great Sex.